- Working is like facing the Marriage -

I did both and I feel both,

I am a married woman whose working and already understand of my own passion.

I really don't mind to share how I am seeing and comparing between the marriage and working. I hope it can give a soft sight for the reader to see the real situation (in marriage or while working) and hopefully will be useful for the reader, at least it is working for me.

It is like facing the marriage, when you are working and makes interaction with your colleagues, stop thinking and deciding that a person is ready (for the task) or not but keep in your mind and decide to prepare a person to be ready (for the task). It will help you a lot.

It's like facing the marriage. While working you need to know and understand the characteristic of your colleagues. Never give an option for those who can not choose immediately in urgent situation, It such wasting your time. Give them direction. But it doesn't mean you underestimate them but more how to understand they way they are working and to response effectively .

It's like facing the the marriage, when you are working is it also, again about approaching, compromising and adjusting. If you want your idea, your thought or your purpose being approved, you need to do approaching (in manner or appropriate way, as I am not talking about 'kiss ass' here).

The compromising is the next step after approaching (either you are the person who are approaching or the person who are being approached). You have to be able compromise between your colleague's interest, policies, procedures, principles and yours.

The final one is adjusting. Can you? For every decision, every discretion and every (changes) system. Can or can not, there is no wrong or right answer. Remember both you and your colleagues are a total human being with different characteristics and perspectives. If you can not because is unacceptable or too far from your opinion, thought, principle or even your conscience then it the time for you to lift your chin and go with pride, leaving. Be brave of whatever may come, people (and their society) assumptions, people (and their society) judgements and people (and their society) mockery. Don't be afraid, you deserve to choose your own track, you are the one who deserve to choose what you feel. 

You have a right to be happy on your working (and your marriage).

*(RMP as Human Resources practitioner, sharing her view about office perspectives)